Sharing stories with children in our homes and classrooms offers many rich opportunities to relate to one another, to share wisdom and communicate feelings. Story-telling can even elevate our mood and give us hope. It can bring a group together, help us see similarities, and it can help us make sense of one another and ourselves.

HEAR recently joined Michael Buchanan, co-author and screenwriter of The Fat Boy Chronicles, at the Auburn University Anti-Bullying Summit.

Together, we spoke with conference attendees about the benefits of engaging and connecting students through stories – whether through the short stories found in HEAR or with books and films, like The Fat Boy Chronicles – stories carefully designed with specific age groups, messages and lessons in mind.

Michael’s experiences as a high school teacher and as an author give him a unique perspective about the impact of words and stories. He knows that kids are trying to figure out the world and where they belong. He is especially mindful of the power of peer influence. As a young person reads about and reflects on characters and realistic events in The Fat Boy Chronicles, they learn from them in much the same way they do from real, same age kids and situations around them.

So, Michael and other great authors write books that kids want to read, and they choose the words and situations carefully. The create relatable characters. In fact, every bit of text is purposeful. For example, adult characters in The Fat Boy Chronicles are not the problem solvers. Why? Michael wants young people to learn to take ownership of their lives and not depend on adults to shield and save them from trouble. Also, he says that he does not write stories where all characters transform in some way for the better. This makes the main character’s story of change standout and portrays the reality that not everything and everyone has to be perfect for one’s story to improve.

Stories also have a certain, purposeful conclusion. The beginning and the middle parts of narrative are sometimes good and sometimes sad, but Michael always has the end in mind. In the midst of negative news and life events that often lack any resolution of hope, where unkind voices are loud and it may seem as though all is lost, isn’t it a wonderful thing that we can engage students in stories where positive thinking, prosocial behavior, and hope prevails?

When students read, reflect on, and perhaps discuss a book or movie that involves bullying, they can see the world through the characters’ eyes. It becomes apparent that victims and bullies come in all shapes and sizes, and they learn that they are not alone in their pain and struggles. The importance of kindness and empathy is realized as well as how it feels to be involved in bullying –maybe as a victim, a bully and a bystander. They discover what bullying is and how to respond. The stories also serve as a catalyst for discussion. Michael says, “Stories provide a way to talk about deep things through the characters.”

 

 

 

 

We couldn’t leave the conference without gaining more of Michael’s insights. Below are some of our questions and his responses.

1. The Fat Boy Chronicles was inspired by a true story. How did meeting the real life “Jimmy” inspire you to tell his story and how has the story has inspired others?

My co-author, Diane Lang, and I met a young man named Doug who had been the target of taunts in elementary and middle school. Doug had been slightly overweight. He told the authors how miserable he had been and how he looked for a book for boys that would give him hope. No matter how much he looked, he couldn’t find a book that worked. So, we took the essence of Doug to create a character named Jimmy, and we placed him in 9^th grade. The resulting novel is Jimmy’s journal for English class and the movie version was adapted from the book. Both are used nationwide by schools to address how we treat people.

2. You’ve described adolescents as a barometer of society. Tell me more about this thought.

Kids watch adults. Anything we expect of our children is something we have to show them. We can’t say, “Be kind to others” and then yell at our neighbors. We can’t ask our kids to show behavior we don’t exhibit. Show them how to act and it will have more impact than telling them. Also, look for ways to connect to them on their level – not speaking down to them. Find ways to engage their innate, creative skills. Take them to art galleries and museums. Put creative opportunities in front of them and see what fits. Also, understand and act on the value of being immersed in unstructured nature.

3. Bystanders have potential to become powerful change agents. What are your thoughts on how to encourage students to be proactive if they witness bullying?

This depends on the personality of the kid and involves adults’ expectations for kids and the behaviors they see. If they are in the car with their parents and see a homeless person on the side of the road, they pay attention to how their parents respond to this. If conflict with a neighbor arises, they observe how parents behave. Also, media plays a big role in shaping the behavior of kids, and I encourage all parents and teachers to know what lessons are in the things our kids watch and listen to. Kids may not be mature enough to filter what comes at them in this digital age. We as adults need to help them in this task.

4. Your second book, Stealing First, just came out and is receiving positive reviews. What other little gems can we look forward to from you in the future?

I was the lead writer on Spiral Bound, a documentary released this past January. It’s about the importance of the arts in the education of our kids and in the quality of life in our communities. I’m also the writer on a documentary scheduled for a release in 2017. This one looks at the present generation that has lost its connection with nature. We are just now learning the consequences of a life lived mostly indoors. Everything from health and creativity to academic achievement can be impacted by our relationship with the wonder of the outdoors.

5. Corresponding lesson plans are available with The Fat Boy Chronicles. What is the best way to obtain your books, films and lesson plans?

Everything can be found online. Visit www.thefatboychronicles.com and find links to curriculum guides and resources for parents and students. The book and movie can be ordered through Amazon. To learn more about Spiral Bound, go to www.spiralboundmovie.com.

In conclusion, we want to leave you with a list of recommended books that concern bullying and related issues. Michael and his friend and children’s book author, Trudy Ludwig, compiled a list and gave us permission to share.

Recommended Books

 Picture Books:

 

Hey Little Ant by Phillip & Hannah Hoose

Have You Filled a Bucket Today? by Carol McCloud

One by Kathryn Otoshi

Each Kindness by Jacqueline Woodson

Thank You Mr. Falker by Patricia Pollaco

 

Novels for Kids:

 

Wonder by R.J. Palacio (FANTASTIC BOOK!!!)

Vive La Paris by Esme Codell

The Fat Boy Chronicles Diane Lang and Michael Buchanan

Crash by Jerry Spinelli

The Misfits by James Howe

Paperboy by Vince Vawter

The Revealers by Doug Wilhelm

Twerp by Mark Goldblatt

 

Pre- School  / Elementary

 

Brown, Laurie Krasney and Marc Brown. How To Be A Friend: A Guide to Making Friends and Keeping Them. Massachusetts: Little Brown & Co., 2001. Dinosaur characters illustrate the value of friends, how to make friends, and how to be a good friend.

Carlson, Nancy. How to Lose All Your Friends. New York: Puffin, 1997. The author uses humor to convey what it takes to be a good friend and make friends.

Cave, Kathryn. Something Else. New York: Mondo Publishing, 1998. Something Else wants to be like everybody else but finds he isn’t. This is a lovely story about accepting people’s differences.

Burnett, Karen Gedig. Simon’s Hook; A Story About Teases and Put-downs. California: GR Publishing, 2000. When Simon’s bad haircut makes him the target of teasing, Grandma Rose teaches him how to refuse to “take the hook.”

De Paola, Tomi. Oliver Button is a Sissy. New York: Harcourt Brace Jovanovich, Publishers,1979. Oliver Button is teased by the boys in his class for pursuing his dream of being a tap dancer.

Frankel, Erin. Weird, Dare, Tough Book Series. Minnesota: Free Spirit Publishing, 2012. The Weird Series are stories of bullying told from the perspectives of the target, the bystander, and the child doing the bullying. Best to get all three in the series to be more effective in the classroom.

Geissel, Theodor (Dr. Seuss). The Sneetches and Other Stories. New York: Random House, 1961. The Sneetches is an excellent story about prejudice and social outcasts.

Jenkins, Emily. The Little Bit Scary People. New York: Hyperion Books for Children, 2008. A lovely little story about how some people look or act a little bit scary, but if you’d get to know them better, you’d find out they’re really not.

Hoose, Phillip and Hannah Hoose. Hey Little Ant. California: Tricycle Press, 1998. A little ant tries to convince a boy not to squish him because he has feelings and a family, too. The book allows the reader to determine the outcome of the story-great opportunities for discussion!

Lovell, Patty. Stand Tall, Molly Lou Melon. New York: Scholastic, 2002. When the class bully at her new school makes fun of her, Molly remembers what her grandmother told her and she feels good about herself.

McCain, Becky. Nobody Knew What To Do: A Story About Bullying. Florida: Magnetix Corporation, 2002. When bullies pick on a boy at school, a classmate is afraid and tells his teacher. The story delivers the message that bystanders can make a difference.

McCloud, Carol. Have You Filled A Bucket Today? Michigan: Ferne Press, 2006. This story helps young children understand the importance of treating others with kindness and respect.

Moss, Peggy. One of Us. Maine: Tilbury House, 2010. Roberta’s first day at a new school is a bit confusing as she tries to find friends who can accept her for who she is. This book will generate great discussions about peer pressure of trying to fit in with others.

Moss, Peggy and Dee Dee Tardif. Our Friendship Rules. Maine: Tilbury House, 2007. When Alexandra dumps her best friend Jenny for the new, cool girl, she soon learns that friendship is more important than popularity.

Moss, Peggy. Say Something. Maine: Tilbury House, 2004. A girl witnesses others being mean to her peer and learns the important lesson that being a silent bystander is not the solution.

Munson, Derek. Enemy Pie. California: Chronicle Books, 2000. A fun story of how a little boy, with the help of his Dad, learns a delicious lesson for turning his number one enemy into a good friend.

Naylor, Phyllis Reynolds. King of the Playground. New York: Atheneum, 1991. Kevin is afraid of the bully Sammy. With the help of his dad, Kevin handles Sammy.

Otoshi, Kathryn. One. California: Ko Kids Books, 2008. This simple story shows young readers how, when you stand up for others, you can make a positive difference.

Otoshi, Kathryn. Zero. California: Ko Kids Books, 2010. All the number Zero saw when she looked at herself was a hole—right in her center. This is delightful story with the heartfelt message that everyone has value.

Seskin, Steve and Allen Shamblin. Don’t Laugh At Me. California: Tricycle Press, 2002. This picture book helps kids think twice about teasing and name-calling.

Thomas, Pat. Stop Picking on Me. New York: Barron’s Educational Series, Inc., 2000. This book approaches the issue of bulling and feelings in a simple and interactive fashion.

Verdick, Elizabeth. Words Are Not For Hurting. Minnesota: Free Spirit Publishing, 2004. For ages 4-8, this book focuses on the power of words when it comes to friendship and social skills.

 

Elementary – Middle School

 

Blume, Judy. Blubber. New York: Yearling, 1974. A realistic story about bullying that takes place among fifth grade girls.

Codell, Esmé Raji. Vive La Paris. New York: Hyperion Paperbacks for Children, 2007. Fifth grader Paris McCray’s older brother is being bullied by a younger girl. In her eager efforts to right some wrongs, Paris learns a powerful lesson about the dangers of ignorance.

Estes, Eleanor. The Hundred Dresses. New York: Scholastic, 1973. A short chapter book about a group of girls who pick on someone who is a little different. Told from the perspective of the bully’s best friend who gives into peer pressure and joins the crowd.

DePino, Catherine. Blue Cheese Breath and Stinky Feet. Washington D.C.: Magination Press, 2004. Steve is picked on by a bully and is afraid things will get worse if he tells someone about it. His parents come up with a plan to help their son.

Gervay, Susanne. I am Jack. Berkeley: Tricycle Press, 2009. Jack, an eleven-year-old boy, is being bullied at school. Caring bystanders and grown-ups come to his rescue.

Goldblatt, Mark. Twerp. New York: Random House, 2013. Twerp is a powerful story set in 1960s Queens about a boy who doesn’t think of himself as a bully but has made a big mistake. He reluctantly agrees to keep a journal to write about it for his sixth grade English teacher as one of the consequences for his behavior.

Humphrey, Sandra McLeod. Hot Issues, Cool Choices: Facing Bullies, Peer Pressure, Popularity, and Put-downs. New York: Prometheus Books, 2007. This powerful collection of short stories offers a great opportunity for generating ethical and moral discussions with tweens and teens. Preview stories to make sure they are appropriate for your particular reader(s).

Kaufman, Gershen, Ph.D., et al. Stick Up for Yourself! Every Kid’s Guide to Personal Power and Positive Self-Esteem. Minnesota: Free Spirit Publishing, 1999. This self-help book for kids includes a section on “How to deal with bullies.” Provides the child with information, descriptions and interventions.Good book for middle-schoolers.

Levine, Karen. Hana’s Suitcase. Illinois: Albert Whitman & Com pany, 2003. This is a true story about a suitcase that arrived at a children’s Holocaust education center in Tokyo, Japan and the suspenseful mystery that is solved when the center’s curator searches for clues about its original owner.

Lombard, Jenny. Drita My Homegirl. New York: Puffin Books, 2006. Drita escapes war-torn Kosovo and ends up attending a New York public school. Maxie, an African-American student there, doesn’t want to have anything to do with her until they’re paired up for a school project. A great story about how friendship can bloom and overcome two very different cultures.

Lord, Cynthia. Rules. New York: Scholastic Press, 2006. In this award-winning novel, 12-year-old Catherine gives her autistic brother rules to prevent him from embarrassing her. Great lessons on accepting those who are different from us.

Ludwig, Trudy. Better Than You. New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 2011. This story shows kids how adopting a “better than you” boastful attitude can break friendships rather than build them. Better Than You also offers great tips to kids on the receiving and giving end of bragging. A great resource for parents, teachers and counseling professionals.

Ludwig, Trudy. Confessions of a Former Bully. California: Tricycle Press, 2010. Told from the unusual point of view of the bullying child, this story provides kids with real life tools they can use to identify and stop relational aggression.

Ludwig, Trudy. The Invisible Boy. New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 2013. Brian is invisible. Nobody seems to notice him or think to include him in their group, games, or activities…until a new kid comes to class. This gentle story shows how small acts of kindness can help children feel included and allow them to flourish.

Ludwig, Trudy. Just Kidding. California: Tricycle Press, 2006. A joke that has a sharp edge to it can cut you to pieces. That’s what D.J. finds out from his encounters with Vince, a smart-aleck classmate whose biting humor does more harm than good. This book captures the truth of harmful teasing and what can be done about it.

Ludwig, Trudy. My Secret Bully. California: Tricycle Press, 2005. Monica is emotionally bullied by her friend Katie and learns how to cope and thrive with the help of her mother. The book also includes helpful tips, discussion questions and additional resources for parents, teachers and counseling professionals.

Ludwig, Trudy. Sorry! California: Tricycle Press, 2006. Jack’s friend Charlie knows how to get away with just about everything by saying “sorry.” But does an apology count if you don’t really mean it? And what happens when the person you’ve hurt knows you didn’t mean it? This is a great tool for modeling personal accountability and responsibility.

Ludwig, Trudy. Too Perfect. California: Tricycle Press, 2009. Maisie thinks Kayla is perfect. She’s pretty and thin, has cool clothes, and gets good grades. But is Kayla happy? The more Maisie gets to know Kayla, the more she begins to question whether being perfect is really so wonderful. A great resource to help kids understand that being happy doesn’t come from being perfect; it comes from trusting and accepting who you are—mistakes and all.

Madonna. The English Roses. New York: Callaway, 2003. An exclusive girls’ club, The English Roses, learn a lesson about judging their peers before really getting to know them.

Madonna. Mr. Peabody’s Apples. New York: Callaway, 2003. A young boy learns the power of words after spreading a rumor about his teacher and baseball coach Mr. Peabody.

Millman, Dan. Secret of the Peaceful Warrior: A Story About Courage and Love. California: H.J. Kramer Inc., 1991. An old man named Socrates shows Danny that the best way of dealing with a bully is the way of the Peaceful Warrior, through courage and love.

Palacio, R.J. Wonder. New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 2012. August Pullman is a 5th grader born with a facial deformity. After being homeschooled for years, he’s the new kid at Beecher Prep. This is a wonderful story about the power of acceptance and kindness. Highly recommended!

New Moon Books Girls Editorial Board. Friendship: How to Make, Keep, and Grow Your Friendships. New York: Crown Publishers, 1999. Discusses friendships and how they affect our lives. Includes practical advice, activities, and suggestions for meeting people.

Olson, Gretchen. Call Me Hope. New York: Little, Brown and Company, 2007. Eleven-year-old Hope is verbally abused by her mother. Rather than run away, Hope finds ways to protect herself and gets support from some caring adults.

Polacco, Patricia. Bully. New York: G.P. Putnam’s Sons, 2012. Lyla gets picked up by the popular group, but when she sees one of her new “friends” bullying other kids, she leaves the group, only to find that the popular girls are now out for revenge.

Polacco, Patricia. Mr. Lincoln’s Way. New York: Philomel, 2001. Mr. Lincoln, the school principal, compassionately works with a student to help him “unlearn” his bullying behavior. This beautiful story shows the importance of adult intervention to help children deal with bullying.

Polacco, Patricia. Thank you, Mr. Falker. New York: Philomel, 2001. Fifth grader Tricia is teased and taunted by her peers because of her reading problems. Her self-esteem continues to plummet until a wonderful teacher, Mr. Falker, intervenes, putting a stop to the bullying behavior and helping Tricia to read.

Romain, Trevor. Bullies Are a Pain in the Brain. Minnesota: Free Spirit Publishing, 1997. A Reader-friendly book written for children about bullies, the myths surrounding bullying issues and interventions. Includes resources for students, teachers and parents.

Romain, Trevor. Cliques, Phonies, & Other Baloney. Minnesota: Free Spirit Publishing 1998. Discusses cliques–what they are and their negative aspects–and gives advice on forming healthier relationships and friendships.

Spinelli, Jerry. Crash. New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 1996. Seventh grader “Crash” Coogan is comfortable with his cocky super-jock and bully nature until his grandfather’s stroke and an unusual Quaker boy make him reconsider the meaning of friendship and the importance of family.

Spinelli, Jerry. Loser. New York: Joanna Cotler Books, 2002. Even though his classmates consider him strange and a loser, Daniel Zinkoff’s optimism and exuberance and the support of his loving family do not allow him to feel that way about himself.

Spinelli, Jerry. Maniac Magee. New York: Little, Brown & Co., 1990. Twelve-year-old Jeffrey comes to a small town, confronts racism, overcomes bullying and promotes harmony between rival factions.

Spinelli, Jerry. Wringer. New York: HarperCollins, 1997Young Palmer must either accept the violence of being a wringer at his town’s annual Pigeon Day or find the courage to oppose it. Recommended for upper elementary and middle school students. Preview first, as this book is not for squeamish readers.

 

Young Adult

 

Asher, Jay. Thirteen Reasons Why. New York: Penguin Group, 2007. Personally, I think this should be required reading for middle school/high school students. Clay Jensen, a high school student receives a package of tapes in the mail from Hannah, his classmate and crush, who committed suicide two weeks earlier. In the tapes, she explains there are thirteen reasons (namely 13 people and their actions) who contributed to her decision to end her life. A powerful read!

Brown, Jennifer. Hate List. New York: Little, Brown and Company, 2010. I couldn’t put this book down! Five months ago, Val’s boyfriend, Nick, opened fire at students in their high school cafeteria. Val, who didn’t know of Nick’s intent at the time, was also wounded and is now implicated in the crime because of a written list she and her booyfriend made of the people they hated. Val is forced to face her demons and those of her peers when she returns to school to complete her senior year.

Crutcher, Chris. Staying Fat for Sarah Byrnes. New York: Greenwillow Books, 1993. An unforgettable novel about high school social outcasts Eric and Sarah who help one another to stand up against social cruelty among their peers and bullying adults. IMPORTANT: Deals with mature, sensitive subject matter.

Ellis, Deborah. We Want You to Know: Kids Talk About Bullying. Canada: Coteau Books, 2011. Author Deborah Ellis asked students from ages nine to 19 to talk about their experiences with bullying. This book is a great resource for schools to generate thoughtful discussions with adult guidance.

Flake, Sharon. The Skin I’m In. New York: Jump at the Sun/Hyperion Books for Children, 1998. Seventh grader Maleeka, with the guidance of a new teacher, overcomes her low self-esteem and the bullying behaviors of her peers.

Friel, Maeve. Charlie’s Story. Georgia: Peachtree Publishers Ltd., 1997. A fourteen-year-old girl named Charlie struggles to come to terms with the reasons for her mother’s desertion, her father’s silence, and the cruelty of her classmates.

Golding, William. Lord of the Flies. New York: Coward-McCann, 1962. A group of English schoolboys are plane-wrecked on a deserted island. This classic exposes the brutality among competitive peers.

Hall, Megan Kelley and Carrie Jones, Editors. Dear Bully: Seventy Authors Tell Their Stories. New York: HarperTeen, 2011. This is a collection of contributions from popular YA novelists and children’s writers who share their personal stories of the bullies, the bullied, and the bystanders.

Hinton, S.E. The Outsiders. New York: Puffin Books, 1967, 1995. The two different social groups epitomize the struggles teen face with their search for self, peer pressure, gang violence, lack of parental influence and socioeconomic status.

Howe, James. The Misfits. New York: Aladdin Paperbacks, 2003. For seventh graders who don’t fit in their school decide to create a third party, ‘The No-Name Party” in the upcoming school elections to represent all students who have ever been called names.

Howe, James. Totally Joe. New York: Athenium, 2005. In his “alphabiography” project for his seventh grade teacher, twelve-year-old Joe writes about his life, friends, and what it’s like to be a middle school gay student. Joe’s voice is embedded with sensitivity, honesty, and humor.

Lang, Diane & Michael Buchanan. The Fat Boy Chronicles. Michigan: Sleeping Bear Press, 2009. Life isn’t easy for Jimmy Winterpock, an obese 14-year-old who is the subject of cruel taunts by peers. Jimmy chronicles for readers the emotionally painful world overweight teens experience in a world obsessed with outward beauty.

Mayfield, Sue. Drowning Anna. New York: Hyperion, 2002. Ann tries to kill herself because of the ongoing vicious acts done to her by Hayley, her so-called friend. This is a great book for generating thoughtful discussion.

Patchin, Justin and Sameer Hinduja. Words Wound: Delete Cyberbullying and Make Kindness Go Viral. Minnesota: Free Spirit, 2014. A great resource for tweens and teens on how to be safe, respectful, and also how to spread kindness online and offline.

Spinelli, Jerry. Stargirl. New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 2000. In this story about the perils of popularity, the courage of nonconformity and the thrill of first love, an eccentric student named Stargirl changes Mica High School forever.

Vawter, Vince. Paperboy. New York: Delacorte Press, 2013. This powerful coming-of-age novel is about an 11-year old boy with a debilitating stutter who discovers new friendships and faces dangers when he temporarily takes over his best friend’s paper route in the segregated South in 1959.

Wilhelm, Doug. The Revealers. Virginia: RR Donnelley & Sons Company, 2011. Three seventh grader social outcasts who are tired of being bullied team up in a unique, scientific way to publicly raise awareness of the bullying going on at Parkland Middle School.

Zusak, Markus. The Book Thief. New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 2007. This is an extraordinary and haunting novel of survival and courage in Nazi Germany during WWII. A young girl learns about the power of words and how they can lead to salvation or destruction.

 

Adults

 

Bazelon, Emily. Sticks and Stones: Defeating the Culture of Bullying and Rediscovering the Power of Character and Empathy. New York: Random House, 2013.

Bluestein, Jane. The Parent’s Little Book of Lists: Dos and Don’ts of Effective Parenting. Florida, HCI, 1997.

Borba, Michele. Building Moral Intelligence: The Seven Essential Virtues that Teach Kids to Do the Right Thing. California: Jossey-Bass, 2001.

Borba, Michele. Nobody Likes Me, Everybody Hates Me: The Top 25 Friendship Problems and How to Solve Them. California: Jossey-Bass, 2005.

Bott, C.J. More Bullies in More Books. Maryland: The Scarecrow Press, 2009.

Coloroso, Barbara. The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander. New York: HarperResource, 2003.

Cooper, Scott. Sticks and Stones: 7 Ways Your Child Can Deal with Teasing, Conflict and Other Hard Times. New York: Random House, 2000.

Davis, Stan. Schools Where Everyone Belongs: Practical Strategies For Reducing Bullying. Illinois: Research Press, 2005.

Davis, Stan. Empowering Bystanders in Bullying Prevention. Illinois: Research Press, 2007.

Davis, Stan and Charisse Nixon. Youth Voice Project: Student Insights into Bullying and Peer Mistreatment. Illinois: Research Press, 2014.

Dellasega, Cheryl and Charisse Nixon. Girl Wars: 12 Strategies That Will End Female Bullying. New York: FIRESIDE (Simon & Schuster), 2003.

Fitzell, Susan Gingras. Free The Children! Conflict Education For Strong & Peaceful Minds. Connecticut: New Society Publishers, 1997.

Frankel, Fred. Good Friends Are Hard To Find. California: Perspective Publishing, 1996.

Freedman, Judy S. Easing the Teasing: Helping Your Child Cope with Name-Calling, Ridicule, and Verbal Bullying. New York: McGraw-Hill /Contemporary Books, 2002.

Fried, Paula and Suellen Fried. Bullies, Targets and Witnesses: Helping Children Break the Pain Chain. New York: M. Evans and Company, Inc., 2003.

Gallinsky, Ellen and Kimberlee Salmond. Youth and Violence: Students Speak Out for a More Civil Society. New York: Families and Work Institute and The Colorado Trust, 2002.

Giannetti, Charlene C. and Margaret Sagarese. Cliques: 8 Steps to Help Your Child Survive the Social Jungle.New York: Broadway Books, 2001.

Goldman, Carrie. Bullied: What Every Parent, Teacher and Kid Nees to Know about Ending the Cycle of Fear. New York: HarperOne, 2012.

Katch, Jane. They Don’t Like Me: Lessons on Bullying and Teasing from a Preschool Classroom.Massachusetts: Beacon Press, 2003.

Hinduja, Sameer and Justin Patchin. Bullying Beyond the Schoolyard: Preventing and Responding to Cyberbullying. California: Corwin Press, 2009.

Hinduja, Sameer and Justin Patchin. School Climate 2.0: Preventing Cyberbullying and Sexting One Classroom at a Time. California: Corwin Press, 2012.

Marano, Hara Estroff. “Why Doesn’t Anybody Like Me?” A Guide to Raising Socially Confident Kids. New York: William Morrow and Company, Inc., 1998.

Masarie, Kathy, et.al. Face to Face: Cultivating Kids’ Social Lives in Today’s Digital World.Oregon: Family Empowerment Network, 2014.

McCoy, Elin. What To Do…When Kids Are Mean To Your Child. New York: Reader’s Digest Adult, 1997.

Meehan, Cricket. The Right to Be Safe: Putting an End to Bullying Behavior, Minnesota: Search Institute Press, 2011.

Olweus, Dan. Bullying At School: What We Know and What We Can Do. Massachusetts: Blackwell Publishers, 1994.

Pollack, William S. Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood. New York: Owl Books, 1999.

Rubin, Kenneth. The Friendship Factor: helping our children navigate their social world-and why it matters for their success and happiness. New York: Viking, 2002.

Simmons, Rachael. Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls. New York: Harcourt, 2002.

Thompson, Michael, Lawrence J. Cohen, and Catherine O’Neill Grace. Best Friends, Worst Enemies: Understanding the Social Lives of Children. New York: Ballantine Books, 2001.

Thompson, Michael, Lawrence J. Cohen, and Catherine O’Neill Grace. Mom, They’re Teasing Me: Helping Your Child Solve Social Problems. New York: Ballantine Books, 2002.

Whitson, Signe. 8 Keys to End Bullying: Strategies for Parents & Schools. New York: W.W. Norton & Company, 2014.

Whitson, Signe. Friendship and Other Weapons: Group Activies to Help Young Girls Aged 5-11 to Cope with Bullying. Pennsylvania: Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2012.

Willard, Nancy. Cyberbullying and Cyberthreats: Responding to the Challenge of Online Social Cruelty, Threats, and Distress. Illinois: Research Press, 2007.

Willard, Nancy. Cyber-Safe Kids, Cyber-Savvy Teens. Illinois: Research Press, 2007.

Willard, Nancy. Positive Relations @ School (& Elsewhere): Legal Parameters & Positive Strategies to Address Bullying & Harassment. Oregon: Embrace Civility in the Digital Age, 2014.

Wiseman, Rosalind. Masterminds & Wingmen: Helping Your Son Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World. New York: Harmony Books, 2013.

Wiseman, Rosalind. Queen Bees and Wannabees: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends and Other Realities of Adolescence. New York: Crown Publishers, 2002.

Wiseman, Rosalind. Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads. New York: Crown Publishers, 2006.